Ritual is something that creates separation from daily life,
The physical tangibility
clarity of intention
inherent to ritual & ceremony can benefit us in many phases of our sexual health. First menarche, childbirth, abortion, miscarriage, menopause, celebration, & grieving are all occasions for ritual throughout history & in traditional cultures.
Through creating our own rituals we embrace traditions imbued with personal meaning & choice.
The personal meaning is of utmost importance. Ritual does not have to follow a formula. The following is simply an outline full of suggestions to inspire or guide you in creating a meaningful DIY ritual. Themes in this guide are commonly used throughout history & presently in Reclaiming Traditions as well as many earth based lineages.
Consult your intuition.
To Create a Custom Ritual:
1.) Plan & Clarify Intention
- Who: Humans to be present, &/or deity/spirits to be invoked
- What: Objects, elements, colors, symbols
- Where: What space & location?
- Why: Create a clear statement of intention
2.) Create sacred space & open the ritual
- Burning incense &/or clearing plants (ex: cedar, palo santo, sage)
- Calling the directions
- Casting a circle ( salt, smoke, candles, flowers, or simply visualization)
- Words & intention
- Making an alter space/including physical items or symbols of importance to you. Some like to represent all the elements, or include an image of a deity figure. Can be as simple or elaborate as you like.
3.) Grounding – use a meditation or physical action to:
- Connect with the earth
- Become fully present in your body
- Burn, bury, smash symbolic objects or artwork
- Song, dance, chanting
5.) Closing of the Ritual / Opening of Circle
- Release & thank any energies invoked
- Cleanse self & or circle with same or different action as opening
Some of my favorite resources for learning more about ritual are:
Women’s Medicine Ways by, Marcia Starck
The Art of Ritual by, Renee Beck & Sydney Barbara Metrick
Moon Divas Guidebook by, Lara Vesta